“Don’t say anything to Me. I am familiar with your misery, your troubles, your struggles and the temptations of your soul. I know and I am familiar with the cowardice of your sins and despite all that, I say to you: «Love Me the way you are! Give Me your heart!» If you wait until you become an angel in order to give yourself to My love, then you will never love Me! Even when you are coward, fearful, distrustful of the fulfillment of love and of the achievement of sainthood, even when you fall back into those sins you don’t will to commit, I will not give you permission not to love Me. Love Me the way you are, no matter the moment and the situation, while being faithful or unfaithful, while being zealous or hard-hearted. Just love Me the way you are.
I want you to love Me with your poor little heart. If you wait until you attain perfection in order to love Me, then you will never love Me. Am I not able to make every grain of sand into a seraphim, into an angel that shine in purity and love?! Am I not the Lord God Who created all things and can do anything? Oh, man, have you given your life for the world out of love for the people or have you died out of love for Me? Then what is the reason you don’t let Me love you? My child, let Me love you, I want your heart which is my dwelling place.
I shall change you in time, of course, but even until then love Me the way you are, because I love you in spite of the way you are. I want your love for Me to be born out of your poor little heart, out of the depth of your weakness and filth. I still love you when you are weak and unclean. I don’t want a love sprung from and fed by the pride of your virtues, but one from a humble heart which I can cleanse anytime. I don’t need your virtues, your talents, your wisdom. All I want is for you to love Me and to work for Me with love.
It is not your virtues that I want. If I gave them to you, because you are so weak and proud, they would nurture your vanity and you wouldn’t honour Me. So let them not be a reason for which you don’t seek Me and you stay away from Me. Draw close to Me with love. The flames would not only remove rust from a rusty piece of iron, but they would also make it incandescent. Love Me not just to become clean, as this would also be a source of pride for you, but because I want to rest within your heart. So don’t concern yourself with that anymore!
I could accomplish great things for the human mind through you, but no, you will be a wicked and useless and powerless servant. I will take even the little you think you have away from you. I created you out of love and for the purpose of giving you love without you being able to give me anything in return. Don’t try to pay for My love with anything. Love Me with the love of My Spirit and for no reason. Don’t stay away from Me any longer. What you lack is not sainthood, which I can give to you, but a heart ready to love Me anytime and until the end.
I am standing before the door of your heart like a beggar today. I, the only, the true Emperor and Lord. I am knocking and waiting. Hurry up to open through meekness. Don’t invoke reasons like your filth and poverty. If you knew them entirely and deeply, you would die of pain. But what would hurt Me would be if you still doubted Me now, if you doubted My love for you. Believe that I can do everything… and that you can do nothing without me. It is only the sin that you can commit without My help.
Don’t rely on yourself without Me because if you do that, I’ll be forced to leave you fallen to the degree you think highly of yourself. Don’t worry for not having any virtues, I shall give you My sainthood. Open your heart through repentance and receive Me into the chalice of your soul through My Body and Blood that I give you as a gift during the Divine Liturgy. Then I shall make you understand everything and love Me more than you can imagine.
Let My blood run through yours and My heart beat within yours. I gave you My Holy and Most Pure Mother. Let everything pass through her pure heart so that she could intercede for you. Whatever happens, by no means wait until you become a saint in order for you to love Me. You will never love Me if you do that. And now go. I am with you!”
Then Jesus came to them and said: All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you, and surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age. Amen.
Translated by Claudia
Firstly, you can’t have a happy marriage without God. Christ, the Lord, is the One who reconciles the man and the woman everyday in understanding, and helps them in their weaknesses. No matter how great is love between spouses, problems will still arise because we all sin and the devil worms himself to confuse things. So, all that you build up together, build up in God and with His help.
The base on wich you will bild up your family life, as a mystery of God, is the Christian marriage with all that involves a marriage.
Pray one for another every night to God, saying: „Help me, Lord, to love and make me understand Andrew and make him love me too. Help us to understand each other and not to quarrel. Redeem us, Lord, and help us to love all people.” Pray with simple words, just pray for each other. When you see he’s wrong, tell him, but don’t insist. Go, pray for him and you’ll feel immediately how he changes.
Go together to the Liturgy, confess your sins as often as you have the possibility to the father confessor (it is very important to have the same father confessor), receive the Eucharist and pray together.
Keep your intimacy without others see the problems and weaknesses that are normal for every couple. As the proverb says: „Wash your dirty linen at home” without parents even know it, because they are subjective and they will complicate things more than to solve them.
Be wise and respectful; when you see your spouse angry or enraged, don’t stand in her/his way, let her/him to settle and then talk together. When there are arguments, use a joke or change the subject to avoid contradictions.
Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry. Strive hard to forgive and to make it up before the end of the day, before bedtime. All difficulties can be overcome with patience and gentleness.
Do not try to change the one besides you, change yourself first. For example, I tried to make my wife to pray more, although I told her for many times, she did as she wanted. The solution is to start praying more and then she will see me and will change herself. In the same time, I pray to God to give her the good thought. Only God can change one’s heart.
Do together as many things as you can.
One of the biggest mistakes in a marriage is to gossip about spouse’s relatives, especially about parents. Slander leads to big quarrels, and in the future you’ll suffer the consequences. Certainly, there will appear tense situations about relatives, because of different lifestyle and temperaments. Accept and respect your wife’s relatives in the same way that you want your relatives to be respected and accepted. The best way is not to slander her/his parents, but to forgive. If you will avoid this, you will have a happy marriage.
Do not put your parents above your husband because: „For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”
Be aware that there will appear cold and boring moments, but God and Mother of God can bring peace and love again, just ask for it.
Do not speak evil of your husband (wife) in discussions with others, because it’s like talking bad about you, and doing so you will feel the effect of evil that you wear in your heart first time your eyes will meet your beloved.
Do not abstain to have children because they will make you love more one another.
Your love should reflect to everyone.
Tips can go on forever but all can be concluded with our Saviour’s words: “As you would that people should do to you, do ye also unto them!”