Teenager’s love

Why doesn’t he love me?

Many of us often ask ourselves the question: “Why he\she doesn’t love me?”. We are at an age when feelings burst in our souls even if we want it or not. OK….so far….we can say is nothing serious, right?

Is not sin to love. Is not sin to feel something for a person. It is important how we love. How we manifest this love…and how much we belive in it. Maybe is not the right “form”: “how much we belive in it”  because God is love. He gives love to those who belive in His Word and His Power. Maybe some see love like a form of destiny, you go with the wind, you love, you don’t care about nobody and nothing stops you to continue this beautiful story. Others see love like an ATM, everything consists in the interest of the person. But just a few realize what is true love.

Love is not when the partner looks “hot”. Is not love when somenthing wrong happens and everything cleans out, everything disappear. No. The love between two persons comes naturally. Love…from my point of view, is prayer. It is a song of the heart…which you raise to Him. A no ending score of life in which you do nothing but love.

Well…you’ll say…how to not look good? Well then…where is that attraction…where is the pleasure? Well…you love from pleasure because the one next to you loves you too. The pleasure is just the intensity of the feelings, their power. Right here lies the desire from prayer. And if he doesn’t love me? You still love him!

For some, maybe is absurd to love without the other to feel something for you. For that reason, we do things that lead us to sin. We ambition more for the other to like us. The love statuses often used on Messenger, the hi5 with sad pictures, messages and letters…are just small aids to start a relationship. Really? Why some of the young people appeal  to those and not appeal to a pray? Young people, love doesn’t come out through the internet. God doesn’t loves us just if we have internet. He loves us without conditions. This thing we must do too.

We don’t have to force things. The love between two persons comes naturally. The moment we try to “work” alone at a relationship, is possible to collapse all forever. Love comes when it is sent by God, at its time..not when we want.

(Georgiana)

What can you do if you don’t have a girlfriend (boyfriend)?

A few years ago, when I was in high school I wanted a girlfriend, because I saw many friends having and it seemed so beautiful. I had a few girlfriends for a month or two but nothing more, and then entered a period where I didn’t met anyone. And the time passed and passed and I still thought that somebody will show-up in my life. In the evening when I was going to bed, although I didn’t know almost nothing about God, I was praying to the holy icon of Saint Paraskeva like I was praying to God, and I was asking God to give me a girlfriend. And I said: “Please God! Give me a girlfriend so that I love her and that she loves me.”

And the time was passing …

It’s been a month, two, three, half of year, a year. And yet, being a little disappointed, in the evening I was still praying, saying only this and nothing more: “Please God! Give me a girlfriend so that I love her and that she loves me.” This is all that I wanted, that was my relationship with God.

There have been two years, and although I was out almost every evening with my friends, and although we met with various girls, I didn’t have a girlfriend. Although I got along very well with girls and we were talking and feeling great, still I was lonely.

I came to college and I thought, maybe here I will meet someone, There were so many girls in my class, and only 5 or 6 boys.

I had some girls that I liked, but one day I met a girl from another class, that it seemed very nice and cute. She was simple and beautiful and she was very dear to me, but I thought she won’t like me. I invited her out second day of Christmas. She was at home with her parents and surprisingly she said „yes”.

I went out with her and we had a great time. Then we met again and again… we were together! Something weird was happening to me, it was the first time in my life when I was acting naturally with a girl, without trying to be funny, interesting or attractive, I was just me – Claudiu.

He liked me a lot and I liked her much.

Time has passed, we got married, we now have a baby of 3 months – Sofia, a miracle, and we are very happy.

God was listening to my prayers, God heard me yelling when I prayed …

I asked for something but He gave me more… much more.

I have some friends who were upset, as I was, that they don’t have a girlfriend although they have 20 years or more. They were desperate and unhappy, because in the past 4 or 5 years they didn’t meet anybody, and things seemed pretty obvious. But they were praying to God as they could, asking Him for a girlfriend. This is the only thing they wanted, a girlfriend, someone to love them, someone with who to be happy each day.

I was surprised when I saw that God make things in such manner that they met a girl when they expected less. I have four very good friends who a year ago did not have anyone, although they finished college and they were very disappointed. And now all four, have each one a girl. All four are happy and they know in their hearts that God helped them a lot, in a time when they were hopeless.

What can you do if you don’t have a girlfriend or a boyfriend? If I were you, I would pray to God every single night and every single morning, I would tease Him continuously until I get one. God always gives us much more than we ask. You just have to believe and to have a little patience and you will be very happy. Not a single prayer to God doesn’t remain without an answer and without help.

“So I say to you, ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.” (Lk.11,9-10)

(Balan Claudiu)